Fear of abandonment can be heart closing.
Fear of rejection can be paralyzing.
Speak the truth anyway.
True intimacy requires deep vulnerability. Not the shallow kind of vulnerability where you share something uncomfortable but you know you’ll be okay no matter how the other person reacts. No, true intimacy asks us to get real in a raw sort of way.
To shine light on the darkness we think they can’t handle.
To share the deepest desires we think they can’t fulfill.
To speak the truth we think will make them run.
And so, we lie to ourselves and we lie to them.
It’s okay if I give up what matters to me.
It’s okay if she doesn’t understand my work.
It’s okay if he doesn’t know my sexual desires.
It’s okay if we don’t talk about the hard stuff if it keeps the peace.
It’s okay if …
In our desire to share a life with our partner and to avoid feeling rejected by them we can neglect our true self and repress what matters.
And, for a while, it works. But, eventually, it doesn’t.
These lies add up and soon we feel buried beneath a heavy pile of discarded dreams, unfulfilled desires, and abandoned values.
Eventually, the life you created will start to feel false and constricted. Your soul will feel sad and your spirit will want to break free.
The only way to avoid having your life go up in flames in the future is to step into the fire of vulnerability now.
Share what you need to share.
Stand in the truth of who you are.
Photo credit : the virtues were captured by Stefan Makwana