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three things I wish I knew before becoming a parent

Recently, I was a full time single mom for three months. Three months of being their protector, provider, and parent 24/7. My mama has done it for thirty years. How she did it, I’ll never know. I have spent sixteen years working with kids, teens, and the adults who are responsible for little souls of […]

the origins of people pleasing + three reasons to stop

I’ve had hundreds thousands of conversations about people-pleasing. With lucid certainty and crystal clarity, from listening to mountains of regret and reading rivers of research, I can tell you – People pleasing will break your heart. Living your life just to please others – whether it’s your partner, your children, your parents, your friends or […]

is your ego healthy or unhealthy? here’s how to tell

Ego gets a bad rap. I’m hearing more and more disparaging chatter about the ego – let go of ego, transcend the ego, fight the ego, destroy the ego, bad ego bad! We can’t get rid of the ego; it’s as necessary for life as breathe. The problem is not that we have an ego, […]

what’s the secret to living a great life?

I’m often asked, what’s the secret to living a great life? I don’t think there’s one secret, I think there are many. And, what works for one person won’t work for another. This adventure called life is all about finding your own way into the life you love. But, I do have a few general […]

seven ways to deal with pain and change

A few months ago my life changed in a surprising way. The news travelled through the air, into my ear canal and down my spine with a chill that left me breathless. The axis of my world cracked and broke. In that moment, everything changed. Change isn’t always this encompassing, but sometimes it is. Whether […]

35 lines for my 35th year

To wrap my 32nd year, I wrote 32 lines. Then I did it again for my 33rd year. And, predictably, 34 lines last year. Here are 35 lines to wrap up my 35th year. There are a lot of ways to add love to the world. And there is lots of love in the world. When I […]

the truth about kindess

I found myself torn between two things that deeply matter to me – telling the truth and being kind. Truth and Kindness are at the tip top of my list of values, right after Freedom and Love. It was a dilemma, the sort that induces a panic attack. As first, I tried to take care […]

you design your life every time you make a decision

On the Great Life Tour I am redesigning daily. I spontaneously hopped onto Facebook Live to share a few true reflections about what the journey has been like so far. We design our lives every time we make a decision.  The first step in designing your great life is to acknowledge where things don’t feel the way […]

let the revolution begin

Great Life  live a life you love :: add love to the world Revolution  a radical change in the status quo Let the revolution begin. Please don’t wait. … until you have healed your past before you let love in. … until you have a six-figure income before you give back. … until you feel more confident before […]

how to pick a word for the year or what Intimacy means to me

Part of living a great life, for me, is being free to love deeply. Most of the time, I feel limitless in my capacity to love. But, there are times when I can feel a hardness creep into my heart. A stiffening, a resisting, a denying, a shrinking. I know why it comes – to […]

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