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self sabotage + fear of not being good enough

The unconscious mind is a powerful force that directs our thoughts, feelings, actions, and life.

Rooted in the unconscious are beliefs that either support or sabotage us.

I’m not good enough is one of the most damaging beliefs I’ve come across.

The foundation of who we are and how we live is built on beliefs. These beliefs are given to us by others or developed as a result of experience.

The first time I remember feeling like I wasn’t good enough is when I was voted president of the jazz band by my fellow students {sounds good right? Just wait}. The band teacher didn’t think I had what it took to lead, so she vetoed the vote and gave the position to another student.

The next time, was when all my girlfriends excluded me for eight months based on a rumour {these experiences are healed and integrated now}.

We all have moments where we felt rejected, unlovable, not good enough.

If you unconsciously believe I’m not good enough, you’re more likely to sabotage the good job, good relationship, or good opportunity because the belief I’m not good enough leads to I don’t deserve it.

I could tell you the truth …

 you are good enough exactly as you are, you are loveable for who you are not what you do, you have what it takes to live a life you love

… but knowing your enoughness doesn’t come from me, it comes from within you.

Looking outside of yourself to find your enoughness is a form of self-sabotage and it will only take you further from what you want.

You are good enough exactly as you are.

You don’t need to sacrifice yourself for their approval.
You don’t need someone else to tell you you’re lovable.
You don’t need to shape-shift into who they want you to be.
You don’t need to abandon yourself to accommodate them.
You don’t need to drink, shop, or have sex to impress them.
You don’t need to earn your self-worth by making seven figures.
You don’t need to give up your boundaries to avoid their rejection.
You don’t need to disappoint yourself to avoid disappointing them.
You don’t need anyone else’s to tell you your voice deserves to be heard.
You don’t need to get another degree or read another book in order to be credible.

This is your life.
You get to choose.

You get to choose what you want inside your mind, body, heart, soul, and life.

You get to choose whether you will hold or heal the belief, I’m not good enough.