welcome
I’m Gemma Stone, and I’m a Psychologist, Coach, Speaker, Guide, and a whole lotta other things.
I work with people who are ready to heal the past, love the present, and light up the future. I work with people who want to stop struggling and suffering and start fully living.
I fight for your happiness, health, and success by combining the science of psychology with the power of spirituality to create a personalized concoction of transformative tools and wisdom. Add a dash of unconditional love, compassion, and soul searching and you begin to get the essence of the work I do.
Think of me as your strategic-listening, freedom-fighting, happiness-finding, meaning-making, mind-reprogramming devotee. I’m the soul-sister who wants to join you on this crazy adventure called ‘life’.
Wanna work with me?
Great! We can work together at my clinic in Calgary, or in a ‘virtual’ clinic created by our webcams or telephones. Everyone starts with either a Pure Activation Session or a Cognitive Miracle Session. People that really want to dive deep go for the Vacation Transformation. Or, if a full year of transformation is more your thing check out the Diamond Tribe.
If you’re a previous client and you want to book a Groundwork Session, you can book your appointment immediately with my online appointment booking program.
Questions? Let’s connect.
There’s work to be done. Time is of the essence.
Keep reading to check out my blog…think of it as a multimedia self-help book; it can’t replace help from a professional.
changing subconscious habits
Subconscious habits can be extraordinarily annoying. And extraordinarily helpful.
Acting without thinking can be frustrating (hey, where did that piece of cake go!?)
Acting without thinking can also be ultra effective. Thank goodness we don’t have to consciously think about the 10,000 things we do everyday. How exhausting would that be?
Just in case you have a few subconscious habits that are falling into the annoying and frustrating category, check out this video for a strategy to “rewire” subconscious habits.
To your freedom.
xo + ox
a strategy for switching off fear
Fear can be a good thing. In the early years of humanity, it protected our ancestors from saber-tooth tigers. It encouraged them to run, fight, or hide in order to save their lives. Fear is a natural and helpful feeling. It’s also one of the strongest emotions that we can experience, so strong that it can be paralyzing. I’ve felt that level of fear once or twice, and boy, it’s a doozy!
If fear has snuck into your mind it can be really hard to stop thinking fearful thoughts. But there is one quick and easy way to switch off fear. Gratitude.
I’m sure you’ve heard of this concept before because it exploded into public awareness with the movie The Secret. But, considered how this nifty little trick might help you stop being afraid of whatever you are afraid of {rejection, intimacy, imperfection, failure, success, not being good enough…and on and on}.
Here’s something to ponder. We know that the part of the brain that experiences gratitude is not the same part of the brain that experiences fear. When the part of the brain that experiences gratitude is switched on, then the part of the brain that experiences fear automatically switches off and vice versa.
Here’s the thing about fear. Despite all your inner strength and determination, it can be difficult to simply stop thinking fearful thoughts.
The truth is :: it’s much easier to start thinking grateful thoughts. The good news is that when you start thinking grateful thoughts, the fear switch in your brain turns off, causing the fearful thoughts to disappear.
And that, dear reader, is one strategy that can free you from fearful thoughts.
In case you’re not familiar with my work, know that I love experiments! So, here’s an experiment for you.
Every time you are stopped at a red light, think of at least 10 things that you are grateful for. Start off generally. This can be as simple as your heart beating, your lungs breathing, the sun shining, or the clouds raining.
Once you’ve mastered this step, turn it up a notch and list all of the things in your day that you are grateful for :: things like your little munchkin’s wrapping his arms around you for your morning hug, your Barista whose kindness makes your heart tingle, or the magic of having cleaning running water in your home.
As you exercise the gratitude muscle in your brain, it will become stronger, and as it becomes stronger, it will be something that you know you can rely on when those fearful thoughts try to push their way back into your mind.
The final step of this experiment is to exercise your gratitude muscle when fear is trying to sneak into your life. As soon as you feel the niggling sensation of a fear thought trying to make its way into your mind, instantly reach for your gratitude thoughts and see what happens.
And, just like all good experiments, take note of your results. If it works for you, great! If not, I’m sure I’ll come up with another experiment that will help, so stay tuned.
If you want your question answered next time, send me a note.
lovelove,
detangling origins of goals + dreams
Throughout our lives, we receive so many messages about how we ‘should’ be living our lives and what the ‘right’ goals and dreams are.
The well-intentioned expectations of others can muddy our truth and cause us to lose our direction and misplace our purpose.
Take some time to clear away what is not true to your spirit so you can fully embrace what is.
DETANGLING ORIGINS OF GOALS AND DREAMS
Messages that come from others often involve elements that don’t feel like they belong to us.
As Barbara de Angelis says, “we need to find the courage to say “no” to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.”
Go through these reflections and see what detangling you can do. Hone in on the parts that feel like they don’t belong.
‘Dream bigger. Bigger is better.’
Big goals and dreams can be so very beautiful. And other times, they can be too much.
Does your spirit want to live big? Does it want to live simply?
If you lived the big dream if you achieved the big goal, how would it feel? (Busy? Content? Peaceful? Rushed? Competitive? Calm? Loving? Empty?)
‘ Do more. Have more. Be more.’
Does your heart want to have more than enough? Does it want to have enough?
Does your desire to set big goals come from a place of personal truth? Does it come from someone else’s opinion or expectation?
‘We would be so proud if…’
Are you trying to impress someone with your big dream?
Was your dream planted by your parents, teachers, coaches, departed relatives, or someone else? Does it come from social conditioning? Or, did you plant the seeds yourself?
This above all…to thine own self be true.
None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper, which is heard by him alone. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you were to listen to the whisper of your heart, what would it say?
Follow your heart, it knows what you most want.
lovelove,
what lay within
In the depth of winter,
I finally learned that
within me there lay an
invincible summer.
—Albert Camus
a story about struggle + freedom
While tending to her garden a woman notices a small cocoon wriggling on a branch.
Mesmerized, the she sits down to watch the metamorphosis of the butterfly breaking free.
Time passes…she grows impatient. The process seems painfully difficult. Wanting to help the butterfly with it’s struggle she gently tears a small opening in the bottom of the cocoon.
Ever so carefully, the tiny butterfly slips out of the protective sheath, prancing along the branch below. The woman smiles, pleased that she could help.
Over and over the beautiful butterfly desperately tries to expand her wings but each time nothing happens.
It is the struggle out of the cocoon that gives the butterfly the ability to unfold it’s wings and fly.
It is the whole point of the struggle…
This simple message can bring peace during moments of struggle :: it is in the struggle that we find the strength to be free.