Romantic love has a way of bringing us closer together or pushing us further apart.
As we move into the vastness of life, it’s easy to loose each other if we’re not staying close.
You can wander further and further away until soon your partner is nowhere to be seen. It’s not always obvious the distance is growing. Though, sometimes it is.
You can loose one another while falling asleep beside each other every night and waking up next to each other every morning.
You can listen without hearing.
Kiss without connecting.
Talk without caring.
You can convince yourself, it will be okay, but the moments build and the space grows.
Sitting across from each other at the dinner table and feeling like your worlds are in different galaxies. Wondering if your hearts will ever collide again.
Days, weeks, months, maybe, years pass and you wonder how did this ever work?
You settle into knowing it’s time for it to end. You wrestle with ways to mitigate the heartbreak, temper the loss, and avoid the pain.
There is a way to soften the harshness of endings …
If you look beneath the incompatibility in the present and the hurt in the past, you can see the truth. There is a human being with a wounded heart who wants to be loved.
Even in the end remember to love.
You may be unable to recover your feelings of romantic love, but pure love is always present. There is no beginning and no end to pure love. It is in everyone and everything. In the words of my favorite Persian poet, we must not seek for love we must seek to remove the barriers we have build against it.
Romantic love may be finite and limited, but pure love is everlasting and limitless.
Romantic love may be subject to expectations and reciprocity, but pure love is free and honoring
Romantic love may be generated from the human part of our being, but pure love is generated from the soul part of our being.
Every relationship in your life had a beginning and every relationship in your life will have an end.
If there’s a relationship in your life that is coming to an end it’s not because the love is gone {though the human part of you may say that’s why}.
It’s ending because your soul knows it’s time for completion.
Honor the relationship by navigating the ending with pure love and by trusting the truth of your soul.
photo credit: Stefan Makwana captured the pure love.