Choosing love over fear means living your life according to what you want to embrace, rather than what you are trying to avoid. It means you focus on the good, practice gratitude, and trust life.
Love will guide you to take the high road, while fear will drive you to control and manipulate.
Love will ask you to be thoughtfully vulnerable and courageously compassionate. Fear will lock you up, prepare you to fight, or prompt you to run away.
Make no mistake, you will have fear in your life. After all, you’re human. We are wired for fear. Our brains are hyper-alert to the world’s dangers for good reason. I categorize fear into clean fear and messy fear.
Clean fears are pure fears, which help us to stay safe, avoid tigers, buckle up, and look both ways when we cross the street. Clean fears are natural. They are wired into our nervous system, like the fear of falling or the fear of loud noises. These biological fears help us to survive and avoid danger.
Messy fears interrupt life design, and they include the fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of intimacy, fear of not being good enough, fear of vulnerability, fear of success. Messy fears drain our mojo, weaken our prana, exhaust our nervous system, and jumble our mind.
We stumble when we allow ourselves to be controlled by messy fears. We procrastinate, self-sacrifice, self-sabotage, get defensive, play the victim, close our hearts, and over time, we lose track of the life we want to live.
I recently bumped into messy fear about publishing my book. While I have pleeeenty of tools to process fear, I felt all jammed up so I took a deep breath, reached out to a trusted friend, and spoke my fear out loud:
I’m not feeling the love for publishing this book; it’s not original, fresh or special enough.
Annika wrapped me in a beautiful golden blanket of golden love, helped me see the truth, and call on courage to move through messy fear and into the land of published author.
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Love is the force that can heal all things – including your life. The journey from fear into love is the art of discovering the truth of your heart.
Sometimes, a little help cleans up the mess so the truth can shine.